Day 3-Santa Rosa

Saturday, August 11, 2012

So after the previous night's crazy windstorm, we made our way back to civilization in search of sunshine.  We headed toward Highway 101 and made a couple pit stops along the way.  We found a roadside stream and spent an hour or so wading in the water, skipping rocks and meeting a very sweet local family who was out enjoying a picnic alongside us.  Once we reached the main highway and got back into cell reception, we began searching for a hotel and sticker shock set in.  I gave the green light to try Priceline.  We had heard many success stories but never ventured into the unknown of bidding on an anonymous hotel room in cyberspace.  We scored a 3.5 star hotel called Flamingo Resort and Spa in Santa Rosa, figuring that any place ending with "spa" couldn't be half bad.  As we pulled into the near empty parking lot and saw the neon flamingo sign rotating in front, we were a bit leery.  Once we opened the door to our room, we all breathed a sigh of relief. Cozy, clean, comfy beds and plenty of room.  After we unpacked and meandered to this amazing pool, all was right with the world.  





After enjoying a game of Marco Polo, we went down the road and grabbed a pizza and settled in for the night.  The next morning we played in the pool for as long as they would let us, stopped in at a local burger joint (delicious!)  and headed south.  It was hard to leave this quaint hotel in this sweet little town.


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Cali Road Trip-Day 2

Thursday, August 9, 2012

So Day 2 began with meandering down the Pacific Coast Highway--another check mark on the Summer Bucket List.  I mentioned in yesterday's post that our goal was to get to Siskyone.  Apparently 20+ years ago when we were in college, my husband had his fill of the never ending gray days and drove south until he found sunshine.  (There was a certain someone of the female persuasion in the passenger seat but I'm sure it was only for safety reasons.)  They stumbled upon what he termed the most amazing campground ever right on the Pacific Ocean.  He has wanted to return to it ever since.  I have heard about this place at least once a year for the last 21.  While planning out this trip, we both did research trying to determine where this "paradise" was.  I finally suggested he email his ex-girlfriend and see if she remembered the name.  He rebuffed my idea but as the departure date grew near, so did his desperation.  Sure enough, she remembered the exact name of the state park and the campground within.  As I looked on the map, I saw that the first stretch of Highway 1 basically ended at this campground. I knew it would be an interesting journey but I had no idea exactly what I was getting myself--and the rest of my family--into.

When we arrived at the road down to the campground, it read: "Steep Grade for 3.5 miles.  Campers and Trailers not recommended."  I expressed my discomfort but got the usual, "It's fine, Dana."  The one lane dirt road with a cliff on the side was the only way to "Paradise."  It would have been "fine" if we were in an SUV or truck but I politely reminded my adventurous husband that we were driving a minivan with a bullet on top and four bikes on the bike and a family of five inside.  I closed my eyes and prayed the entire way down.  We got to the bottom and were greeted by Malcolm, our camp host living in this house.


There was not another soul in sight and it felt a little bit like a scary movie in the making.  I stayed in the car while the boys went inside the house.  It was a bonafide state park property but definitely masculine to the fullest. Turns out Malcolm was a college professor in San Francisco who volunteers there with his 13 year-old son for the month of July.  (He could have told us anything though as there wasn't a soul around to refute his story.)  I did believe him though and his son, Chris was very mature and a delightful young man.


Malcolm showed Trey "the barn" as an option over the other four campsites for $5 more.  I guess you could say it was considered an upgrade.  I still was looking over my shoulder for the ax murderer.  This need for adventure had gone too far for my liking but we were there and I had to admit it was absolutely stunning.  We basically had an entire peninsula all to ourselves.  We set up for dinner at campground nearby but put our sleeping pads and bags in "the barn" which was really a rustic sleeping shack.


This was the view from the hill to the north.  Seriously breathtaking.   Sunset was spectacular.







Right after dinner, the wind kicked up and we called it a night.  Unfortunately the wind never relented and at 2 a.m. we were all still wide awake.  Ian left and went to sleep in the car.  I think the rest of us finally got some shut eye by 3 or 4.  It was a wild night and I almost felt like the treacherous road down was a warning of the wildness to come.   When we packed up and got in the van, I made everyone sit toward the front and leaned forward the entire way up.  Just like on the way down, I closed my eyes and prayed.  We hit the paved road at the top and Ben and I jumped out and kissed the pavement in celebration.  


I told Trey that he would be hard pressed to get any of us to camp again the next night.  As we headed back to Highway 101, and got back into cell reception, he started surfing Priceline.  To be continued........

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California, Here We Come!

Wednesday, August 8, 2012

The last time we embarked on a family road trip was 3 years ago when we did the Oregon coast.  Four years prior to that we drove to Boulder, Colorado over the course of two weeks.  Being that we had such fond memories of those experiences, we determined a trip down the California coast was long overdue.  After readjusting our plan several times, we finally found the longest stretch of time on the entire summer calendar when everyone was available--8 days.  We knew we were probably being a little overzealous in trying to fit in many destinations and a lot of driving, but as I have watched the days fly by and knowing time our time with the boys was passing quickly, we decided to go for it. 

We sat down with the boys and asked everyone what they wanted to do and/or see.  Quinn: surfing.  Ian: mountain biking. Ben: a water park.  All of their requests seemed within reason but probably not able to be fulfilled all in one day.  Our final destination was Santa Cruz which appeared to have two of the three desired activities.  As for Mom and Dad, we were just happy to have all 5 of us together and if we could make it there and back without the car breaking down and everyone still talking, we would deem it a successful vacation.  

Quinn pulled in from football camp on a Thursday afternoon and within 24 hours we were on the road.  We stayed at my mom's (2 hrs. away) that night and by 7:30 the next morning, it was "California or Bust!" Eleven hours and 483 miles later we were in Crescent City.  I had made a reservation at "The Curly Redwood Lodge."  The reviews were positive and I was particularly fascinated with the fact that the entire motel was built from one single redwood tree that produced 57,000 square feet of lumber.  It just sounded cool to say you stayed in a place like this.  It wasn't as cool as it sounded and the town looked like it was on the verge of closing up shop.  We checked in, went out an grabbed a pizza and ate it on the beach in 59 degree weather.  We cruised around the town and explored but that took all of about 30 minutes.  The sunset was beautiful though and our room was cozy and clean.  

The next morning we headed out on our way to Siskyone State Park.  We meandered down the Avenue of the Giants in the Redwood National Forest with Quinn behind the wheel.  He loved the winding roads and I was wishing I had packed some Xanax.  The trees were so gigantic and beautiful although after a few miles, the kids weren't as impressed as we were and put on their headphones to tune out our oohs and aahs.  Of course we stopped to do the touristy "drive through the tree."  

Tomorrow's post: the adventure continues......


 Everything but the kitchen sink.

 We made it!

 I think we took this picture on my 200th potty break.  My poor family.

 Is she going to fit through?  It was sooo close.

 Almost through.


 Admiring the Pacific Ocean.

A sight to behold.

 This brave young woman happened to be from our hometown.  She was biking all the way to San Diego--by herself!
 The "Immortal Tree".  It was so massive.

Sunset in Crescent City


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20 Years!

Thursday, August 2, 2012


When I look at this picture I can remember the plans, hopes and dreams ready to burst out of both of  us as we returned from our honeymoon ready to take the world by storm. Two naive, determined 24-year-olds who were going to continue our fairy tale romance and live happily ever after in our perfect life with our perfect careers, perfect house and perfect children.

Fast forward 20 years and we have eaten more than a few slices of "humble pie."  And then some. If you have been married for any length of time, then you understand why they are called "fairy tales."  They are long on fantasy and short on reality.  God knew that we were sorely in need of some adjustments and thankfully He saw fit, in His goodness and graciousness, to give us many challenges along the way.  Had everything gone our way, I cringe at the thought of the kind of people we would be today--or if our marriage could have survived two inflated egos that surely would have followed. I often think about what kind of children we would be raising if we never had to tell them "no" because the resources had always been there.  I wonder what kind of friends we would be to others and if we would have the true friendships we do if life had moved along seamlessly.

About that fantasy.....our perfect careers turned into 11 different employers.  Our perfect house was not one house but 10, most of which we have rented.  Our perfect children arrived but not until after a two year struggle with infertility.  Definitely not what we had in mind when embarking on this journey but I can honestly say I am so very thankful.  In spite of the many moves, periods of unemployment and countless other challenges, we have leaned INTO each other.  Not that we haven't had our moments but when the rubber has met the road, we were in the same vehicle driving this crazy, winding road together.

Last night, as we celebrated over a wonderful dinner, we both asked each other as if on cue, "would you do it again?"  Our answer: "In a hearbeat!"
  
Dessert, along with this sweet sentiment, was on the house: Peanut butter mousse with chocolate ganache.  
 Twenty years and still smiling.

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Checking off the Bucket List

Sunday, July 29, 2012

We just returned from our 9 day California road trip and although I am dying to write a post about that, I figured I should probably go in order of the items I am checking off the bucket list.  

Earlier this month, Quinn had a two-day kicking camp in Seattle just miles from my sister's house.  Fortunately for us, my brother-in-law is a huge fisherman who loves to crab and has the routine down pat.  And he really loves to take friends and family out on his boat and once he knew we were staying with them, he went out into the Sound and put 4 pots in. When we arrived that night, we were barely out of the car and he and my nephew whisked us away to the marina.  It was one of those beautiful Seattle summer evenings straight out of Sunset magazine.  Sailboats surrounded us and we motored out to the buoys.

Captain Parker takes us out to check out bounty.

The first Dungeness we kept.

Uncle Brian shows off our first pot.  12 crabs!
We got skunked on the second pot but the other two were full and we ended up with the maximum limit each for a total of 20 crabs. 





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The Summer Bucket List

Thursday, July 12, 2012






If you live in the Northwest, or know anyone that does, then you have undoubtedly heard the old adage that “summer doesn’t start here until July 5th.”  And it’s usually a true statement.  While the Eastern seaboard was melting under 100+ degree conditions, Colorado was fighting wildfires and the nation’s capital was without air conditioning, we were still sporting our rain parkas and lamenting our pasty white bodies.  Then, suddenly, our barometer joined the rest of the country and our 8-week long summer began.  Other than the wild middle-of-the-night crazy thunder and lightning storm last week, we haven’t had a drop of rain.  Bright blue skies have greeted us every morning since.  It has truly been glorious.

As tough as it is to sludge through the never ending gray and drizzly days, I have to say that there really is no place like our neck of the woods come July and August.  Being surrounded by so many bodies of water and majestic mountains, there is no shortage of ways to spend your time.  The down side of this is that you want to make the most of every single moment and be outside more than inside.  It feels like a frenzy to fit it all in before the rain returns.  But it’s just what we do in these parts.  The housework can wait—and something tells me it will still be waiting for me come September.

Back in early June when we were all waiting for warmer days, I heard one of our local DJ’s say, “What’s on your summer bucket list?”  I’ve never made a general bucket list, much less a summer one but it’s always been one of those things that falls under the “I’ll get around to it” or “Someday” category.  Well, this year I decided that “someday” was here.  After 9 straight months of my time not being by own, I was more than ready to conquer a list that I authored.

I know that 56 days doesn’t give me much time, and I might be biting off more than I can chew, but as my boys like to say: "Go Big or Go Home!"


Dana’s Summer Bucket List 2012

1.      Pick all three berries: Strawberries, Raspberries, and Blueberries.
2.      Hike a medium elevation mountain.
3.      Make a rope swing with my kids.
4.      Early morning run on the Northshore Trail.
5.      Go to a Drive-In movie theater.
6.      Go crabbing in the Puget Sound or Bellingham Bay.
7.      Sleep under the stars.
8.      Fish in the lake and eat my catch for dinner.
9.      Make a batch of homemade ice cream.
10.  Visit a local farm for fresh weekly produce.
11.  Take a family road trip down the California coastal highway.

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One of us goes to Hawaii, the rest go camping

Friday, June 29, 2012

I'm not sure I can recall a single camping experience in the Pacific Northwest when it didn't rain.  Even if it's not in the forecast, precipitation will follow me.  The last one was a doozy and we were not terribly prepared.  I swore to write off camping and insisted that this was God's way of telling us we must buy an RV or, at the very least, a tent trailer. My husband and our budget did not share my logic.  

Back in March we were spending an evening with some dear college friends when they said "you should come to Alta Lake with us."  Trey jumped on the invitation and made a 5 day reservation that night.  5 nights? On the ground?  In Washington state?  3 days has always been my limit.  Knowing we could modify the reservation later, we went with the original plan.  In early June I got a call from Sue, Quinn's friend Nick's mom.  Seems they had secured a condo for a week in Kona, Hawaii and wanted Quinn to join them.  Asking Quinn to choose between Hawaii and camping.  Hmmm.  Tough choice.  Our first family vacation without one of our children was a disappointing prospect but I knew this was not only a chance of a lifetime but an inevitable part of my kids growing up. I needed to get used to the idea sometime.

Back to camping.  As I begrudgingly helped pack for the adventure, I was brewing with self pity inside.  When I looked at the forecast it wasn't typical June east-of-the mountains weather.  Day 3 called for showers the entire day.  That sounded like the perfect time to pack up and leave.  I could do 3 days but enduring wet camping was not an option.  We drove through a huge rain and windstorm for most of the way there, downed trees and wayward branches were everywhere.  When we had to take a detour 30 miles into the drive, I decided it was a sign we needed to turn around and bag the whole idea.  No dice.  We soldiered on and arrived with plenty of daylight to set up our site and meet all of the 40 other people who were already there.  I had no idea.  I knew there would be another family or two but all in all there were 20 kids and 19 adults--most of whom had been friends for the last 10 years.  Nothing like being outsiders.  And 7 of the 9 families had fancy trailers or RV's while we would be slumming it in a tent.  This was going to be a stretch for me.

After setting up and eating dinner, we ended up in Mike & Julie's RV and pretty soon it was full of half the other adults we had just met.  Within a half hour, it felt like we had known these warm, friendly people for all our lives.  They were so incredibly welcoming, fun and generous.  No one cared that we were "newbies" or that we had nothing to offer by way of a boat, jet ski or other water toys.  Even when the rain arrived on Tuesday, we set off into town and enjoyed a day of doing some "touristy" things and by the time we returned the storm had passed.  Although we tossed around the idea of leaving on Wednesday, when we woke up to sunshine and blue skies, the decision was made for us.  

I never thought I'd last five consecutive nights on the ground and actually be sad to leave a campground.  (Although it was nice to sleep 10 hours in my own warm bed.) But it was more than the camping. It was the memories. Watching my kids make new friends, play hard and try new things was priceless.  Having my husband completely unplugged from his phone and computer and totally relaxed for 6 full days was worth the inconvenience of recreating my kitchen on the dirt. Being warm, listening to constant laughter and ribbing of each other, sitting around the campfire and hanging out with normal people my own age was a heart filling treat. Although Quinn may have had an exotic vacation (and I'm always up for one of those), we had our own "vacation of a lifetime." Who would have thought?  Not me.


 
Quinn, Nick, Ron and Sue ready to board their flight.

Quinn and Nick looking forward to "hanging loose" in Hawaii.

Our home for the next five days.

Jodie, waterfront director extraordinnaire, helping Ian get ready to wakeboard.


Darrell has thrown the rope. Time for action.

And he's up!


We put up our 60 foot tarp in preparation for the rain.  From then on we were affectionately referred to as "Occupy Alta."

The only other "tenters" and our camping neighbors, Darrell & Shelli. Darrell threatened to get some white spray paint and deface our tarp.  He was the daily comic relief.  Love this couple.
The view from above.

At the top of the goat trail was this wonderful rugged cross.

Ben raced up the trail and enjoyed the view.

Where the teenagers gathered to play everyday.

How the other half lived.  I had serious "RV envy."

Jodie, Carl and Darrell feeding the crowd their amazing fish tacos on our last night.

Instead of pulling his boat out to refuel, Jeff took care of business and was ready for the week.

 Andy was such a saint and pulled everyone all day long behind his boat.  
























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Father's Day

Sunday, June 17, 2012


A man of strength, a man of pride, a man of courage, a man of wisdom and ideals, a man of faith, a man of honor.....Today is a day for celebrating....All that you are, all that you mean, and all that you've done for our family.



Happy Father's Day!

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In the home stretch

Monday, May 28, 2012


I see I haven't posted on here in over 3 weeks.  I'd say that is an indication of how my life has not been my own this quarter.  With just 3 days of classes left, I am feeling like I am on my downhill coast to the finish line.  All major projects are behind me and it's now a matter of formalities and tying up loose ends.  Two of the boys' spring soccer seasons are over and Trey is home for two straight months.  Big. Huge. Exhale. 


Midway through my longest stretch of being solo parent this quarter, I wondered why this spring was so much different than last.  All the boys were in sports, I was in school and Trey was traveling a fair amount so why did this year feel so much more grueling.  Every week I felt like I was living on auto-pilot and barely keeping my head above water.  My house was a disaster, I rarely returned phone calls or spent time with anyone my age and one day just morphed into the next. Turns out there were major differences in all three categories this time around.  


First, the kids' sports: Last year:Quinn's soccer season was over by mid-April  and he had just one game a week on Saturdays.  This year:: he was on the high school team with 2-3 games per week with most of them not starting until 5:30 p.m. To prolong the pain, they made it to post season which added another 3 weeks onto the schedule.   Last year: Ian did track and practice was 3 days a week and done by 4:30.  This year: their school schedule was altered to a dismissal time of 3:45.  This meant not being done with practice until closer to 6:00.  Last year: Ben's coach held practices twice a week 4-5:30.  This year: a new coach who preferred practices from 6-7:30 two nights a week--one of them being Friday!  


Second, my student life:  Last year: I was taking 10 credits but my classes were only on Mondays and Wednesdays and the homework was minimal.  This year: 16 credits, 4 classes, being on campus all day Monday-Thursday, a middle school practicum that called for an additional 40 hrs. in a classroom and a grueling unit plan assignment that, to date, I've spent at least 100 hours on.


Third, Trey's travel requirements: Last year: he did make it to the east coast four times in the spring but none of the trips encompassed a weekend of even 10 days.  This year:  he was gone every other week for 10 straight weeks.  The shortest trip was 4 days and the longest was 10. Just when he adjusted to the time difference, he was heading back to the airport.  


Just writing this makes me want to take a nap.  In spite of the meltdowns, lack of sleep and non existent social life, we have all survived.  3 more days! 



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Accepting my limitations

Thursday, May 3, 2012


"There are no limits except the sky."  How many times have I heard that overly used cliche?  Better yet, how often do I try and live that way?  Unfortunately, I must admit that I have adapted this mantra for the better part of my 44 years--and it is now backfiring on me. Believe me, there have been many meltdowns from being overloaded but I always seem to meander back to my old ways. I make some changes but find myself back in the thick of an over scheduled life.


I have never been very good at operating within limits or setting limits for myself and others. I always thought it was because I wanted to be open to other options but I now see it's because I like being told how strong I am or how capable I am or how.... you fill-in-the blank.   Because of my own insecurities and need for approval and affirmation, I have not strayed from this path of taking on more than I should, accommodating others' preferences, staying quiet about my own needs/desires and trying to be all things to all people.  It is just not humanly possible--nor how I think God intends for us to live.  This season of my life is actually turning out to be a gift as it's proving that I can't continue on this path unless I want to have a stroke or ruin what precious years I have left with my children.  And, believe me, neither of those sound like good options right now.  


I've realized that when you have shown the world you are someone who figures out a way to make things happen, initiate relationships, live life fully; prioritize others and have a "can do" attitude you will set yourself up for expectations--both internally and externally--  that are impossible to fulfill. (again, a byproduct of insecurity) As a result, bitterness and resentment rear their ugly heads and you lament over the fact that others aren't reading your mind, and offering help then you write on Facebook:  "Three kids in three schools in three sports; a husband who is on the road more than he is home; and a 16 credit load quarter was not what I anticipated for this season and is about to send this chick over the edge. I apologize in advance if I am not very nice right now."  (written in third person on purpose)


Then God, in his grace and mercy, sent this message to my inbox by way of a daily devotional email I barely took the time to read.
 As mothers in the twenty-first century, we are tempted to meet every need that comes our way. But our primary job is to love the Lord, love our husbands, and nurture our children. All the other needs that scream for our attention, though they are noble, must wait until we take care of our families first.


 I have heard this sentiment a million times before but, in my desperation, I am seeing it with a new set of eyes. And really, finally taking it to heart.  


So how am I putting this into practice?  Well, I had two opportunities just in the last hour. First, as I was sitting here on my laptop another string of emails (the list has gone around at least 10 times) came in requesting items for a Teacher Appreciation Week luncheon.  I glanced at it and hit "delete."  Not in this season.  Second, the phone just rang and the voice on the other end was the PTA volunteer coordinator from the high school looking for parents to sit in on the AP tests tomorrow morning.  I kindly told her "not in this season." 


I know that pull will continue to be there every time another request comes my way but I have to remember whose approval it is I seek.  And the limits He has naturally put on us are a blessing, for our good.


  I think my new mantra will be "There ARE limits to what is humanly possible but NO limits to the number of times God will remind you of this."


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